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Is a Compliment Really a Compliment if it Irks You?

“What’s the best (or rather, worst) backhanded compliment you’ve ever received? If you can’t think of any — when’s the last time someone paid you a compliment you didn’t actually deserve?”

 ( http://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_prompt/why-thank-you/ )

-The Daily Post

 

I was at my hair salon a week ago from today getting a trim before I left for college. The salon I go to is extremely small- 3 hair dresser stations and 2 sinks squished together in a short row as soon as you walk through the beige, chipped double doors.  As I was getting my hair washed by the assistant- a 5’2 blonde woman, a little on the heavier side, and perky as can be- began talking about how she was offended from what a customer had said to her earlier. She explained that a regular customer of the salon’s came in and said to her, “Wow, you look so good!” At first, I was confused as to why she was offended. She began justifying herself, saying things such as, “What, did I not look good before?” I could understand where she was coming from, especially because she had been trying to lose weight. However, she was letting her insecurities get in the way of her judgement.

I never put too much thought into when people compliment me, maybe because it doesn’t happen all that often. Maybe it’s just because I’m not the type of person to allow other people’s opinions bother me. We as a society put too much thought into the meaning behind things. Not everyone is like Gretchen Weiners from Mean Girls, “Oh my God. I love that skirt. Where did you get it?” People usually mean what they say, and say what they mean. I realize these are some large generalizations; I’m just trying have hope for our society.

I hope everyone is enjoying back to school season. It’s day 2 of my sophomore year at college and I’m so ecstatic to be back.

Stay fetch,

J

 

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Be sincere … be brief … be seated. -James Roosevelt

After a decent amount of research, a plethora of advice, and too much procrastination, I finally made it…my first blog. As I’m sitting here on my couch, Modern Family buzzing on the television in the background, my cat begging for attention, I catch myself wondering: where do I even start? A name seems like a push in the right direction. If anyone can find one of those new Coke bottles with the name Jess on it, I’ll be accepting all donations.

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Here are a few basic facts about me:

  • From the Pittsburgh Area (Go Bucs!)
  • Incoming Sophomore at University of Pittsburgh at Greensburg
  • English Major
  • Collegiate Softball Player
  • Introvert
  • SyFy network and Edgar Allen Poe enthusiast

 

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This is my two brothers and I from this past Easter. My oldest brother, Eric, is on the left. He graduated from PSU main a few years ago and is living in Philadelphia. On the right is my other brother, Ethan. He just graduated Wheeling Jesuit and is going to be attending graduate school next year.

So enough about me, there is plenty of time for that in the future. This blog is directed toward helping students through high school, college, and life in general. I have experienced a considerable amount of unfortunate events in my time. So as I go about talking about my daily struggles and mishaps, and also my joys and successful experiences, I want to hear about yours, too. I can’t promise the greatest advice, but it’s someone to listen and it’s cheaper than a therapist. I will have my contact information in an up and coming post. Until then, COMMENT! I want feedback. I want questions. I want interaction.

For good ideas and true innovation, you need human interaction, conflict, argument, debate.” -Margaret Heffernan

Until next time,

J.